In some cultures, it is normal for guys to take control and assert their dominance. It's not really about being submissive as it is about conforming to gender roles. Almost all of my female friends here will say yes to someone they do not like dancing with. Basically, whenever I tell someone who just had a bad dance experience to not dance with that person again, they will come up with excuses about how it wasn't so bad. Frankly, I think my scene is just choke full of massive egos from having been a big fish in a small pond for far too long. And nothing can sway them otherwise as there is no reason to change when you have your pick of the litter and you are put atop that local pedestal.