Should I be upset and worried that my boy/girlfriend dances salsa with other people?

Discussion in 'Just Dance' started by MacMoto, May 7, 2014.

  1. mlemonl

    mlemonl Son Montuno

    The community needs dancers like you!
  2. Slowdance

    Slowdance Descarga

    :) Do you mean "old" or do you mean "guaranteed by social contract to have no ulterior motive"? :)
  3. I find it offensive.
    Are old people not allowed to be perverted?
    That's scandalous!!!
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  4. mlemonl

    mlemonl Son Montuno

    Haha they are not seldom mutually exclusive. But when they happen to coincide, they are usually such pleasant leads and make the salsa community very approachable (from my personal experience).
  5. Chris_Yannick

    Chris_Yannick Rhythm Deputy

    It's a cultural thing.
    From what I've seen, the older Salseros absolutely do have ulterior motives. Being noble has nothing to do with age. By the way, you're so not old. You are just stuck in a culture that defines old as anything over 20. Come over to my scene, and you'll fit right in :)
  6. Slowdance

    Slowdance Descarga

    Sure, I see plenty of men dating younger people. I personally find it awkward if the lady is young enough to be my daughter. So much so that I stopped one relationship before it could get serious with someone who was 31, and I avoided another one with someone the same age. The only reason I sometimes become the recipient of attention is that most people think I'm only 39 or 40.

    Maybe its good that all the salsa ladies are in the too-young zone (under 38 or so). That way I avoid drama. :) But sometimes I wish we had more older people. We are age-inclusive, but there isn't an even spread. :)
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  7. Offbeat

    Offbeat El Sabroso de Conguero

    If you classify '38' as too young, then you are not too old by definition :) And you wonder why you get attention!!! Sir, I don't think you are being any noble making 38 years old feel too young :p :p

    We need an intervention program to disabuse you of what is old :D
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  8. David

    David Administrator Staff Member

    Everywhere I dance people know I am married. I never have a misunderstanding this way. Mostly people want to dance with me more when they know I am married, because they know my motives are clear.
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  9. Offbeat

    Offbeat El Sabroso de Conguero

    But when has marriage stopped some people from having motives :p

    On a different note, some men have complained that at the bars they get hit on more when they have a ring on their fingers. Hard to figure if women approach them because they feel safer talking to a married guy or marraige makes a guy inherently more attractive to some women :D
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  10. Yiannis

    Yiannis Changui

    The dance is not the problem, it's all about trust, a dance is not supposed to inticate attraction between two people, but offcource that can happen too. I know people who only dance with people who their attracted to, and yet others who enjoy dancing, so their parther of choice, is not based on attraction, but on their dance skills. Hope this helps!
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  11. SnowDancer

    SnowDancer Clave Commander

    True, but I see a few guys who use dance mostly as a means of seduction; and I'd guess that every scene has a few of these.
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  12. LarsM

    LarsM Sonero

    After being part of the local scene for a while now (and thus getting to know a lot more "dirt", even though I mostly don't care), I've seen quite a few people who are there primarily to find a partner/hook up/party. And there is waaaay more dirty biz going on than you'd think at first sight...probably varies from place to place, but people being people I'd be very surprised if this isn' a global thing.
  13. calichris10

    calichris10 Sabor Ambassador

    It is global. And imo a normal happening in any group of people who are always together.The people who deny it is happening simply do not know it is going on. Which is understandable if you are in the outskirts of a scene.
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  14. SnowDancer

    SnowDancer Clave Commander

    I agree, it's normal in any group. But I think salsa, by its more sexy reputation, attracts more players, than, say, a chess club.
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  15. granrey

    granrey Son

    Dancing its a sign of interest, if other signs are there as well.
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  16. If you are worried about it then there are probably other problems in the relationship
  17. calichris10

    calichris10 Sabor Ambassador

    Not necessarily true.
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  18. Justin James

    Justin James Changui

    Relax and trust your relationship.

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