Hey peeps, Just trying to get a general idea from dancers/non dancers on a few on a few of my opinions/issues. So my gf dances salsa, and is good. I'll sometimes go dancing with her but it's not my preferred style so I've never learned anything more than a few basic steps. I'm chill if she wants to go to salsa clubs, bars, etc if she wants to dance but I feel like at house parties and things like that where it's our friends and sometimes family who have never been exposed to Latin dance I'd prefer she didn't. Sometimes at these events she'll kill the music, chuck on some sexy bachata song and get a dude she does salsa with making a big scene about it Is that wrong of me to ask her not to do that? I realise it's just her wanting to show off her moves/skills but when it happens I can feel the eyes and a bit of pity from those present who have no experience with/exposure to salsa which kinda kills my vibe. Sometimes it makes me jealous, sometimes a bit powerless as obviously there's nothing I could really do in response other than giving the next prettiest girl in the room a lap dance ( which probably wouldn't go down well) . But I think mainly it makes me feel small. But it's something I'd never show, and I'm always smiling when things like this happen because I do realise it isn't a big deal but at the same time I feel like if it does kind of hurt me surely it isn't too big an ask to ask her to stop. As I'm certainly not asking her to stop dancing otherwise. I'm happy for her that she loves dancing but is it wrong for me to ask her to not showcase it with all those in my life? And just leave it for those in hers? Because I get tired of people asking me if I get jealous or "what do you think about that?" from those who don't really get or know latin dance (it isn't a particularly big scene/hobby where I'm from, think of places like the UK or Australia with little to no Spanish influence) ... Especially after what I feel is a needless bachata rendition after a chill house song Don't get me wrong, I say dance your salsa hearts away, which like I said I'll sometimes do myself. But I feel like if she says I can't dance with girls when I go to the more mainstream clubs when I'm out with my friends it should therefore be a fair compromise to ask her to leave her dancing at the places where people are accustomed to it? Which also leads me into my next question. Is me dancing with a girl at a night club really that different (or bad) from her dancing salsa if I'm behaving and just having fun? And if I shouldn't be allowed then should she be able to dance salsa with her friends at 'normal' nightclubs too? So many questions haha. For a nutshell of what I'm asking: 1. Is it reasonable to ask my girlfriend to not dance salsa at non-salsa events? 2. If your partner did ask you this, how would you feel/respond? 3. Do you show your salsa off at parties etc. and have a non "dancing" partner? or vice versa. 4. Is me dancing at clubs with girls really that taboo in comparison to social salsa? (I realise alcohol will probably play a big part here ) Don't get me wrong, my girlfriend doesn't walk over me (or can't ) and I really don't want to be controlling. I just feel the way I do while she's probably oblivious and I just want to gather different views to help me decide which way to move forward. Cheers for reading. I'm curious as to what your opinions may be.