There's this unwritten rule that says you pretty much should say yes to at least one dance if a guy (or girl) asks you. And if you say no then you should say no to anyone else that asks. But there are some people that you just do not want to dance with. I suppose there could be many reasons but the one I'm interested in is a guy who has a terrible reputation for overpowering the girl, forcing her to do moves she can't do, and basically putting her at risk of injury. Or a guy who does inappropriate moves with every girl. Copping a feel whenever he can. The kind of guy who is unapologetic about the way he dances, leading with force and treating the girl like a toy. He's not necessarily inexperienced. He knows what he is doing but makes no apologies for it. He thinks everyone should dance his way. What do you say to these guys? Do you tell them you're tired, or you're going to the bathroom, or to the bar? Or do you say you are just going to sit this one out? Or that you promised the next dance to someone else? Or do you tell him the truth? That you don't want to dance with HIM specifically because he is reckless and inconsiderate? Or he is inappropriate? Or you know that he has hurt girls in the past and you just saw him dance and you are not going to dance that way with him until he learns to dance with class? And after you tell him this do you say yes to a different guy? Personally I think it's best in this case to be upfront. If he gets excuses he'll find a way to weasel his way into a dance. But more importantly, if he gets a lot of feedback from a lot of girls telling him that he terrifies them, then maybe he'll learn a lesson. I know you don't want to be confrontational but that's pretty much how you have to handle jerks. If you don't, then he'll keep dancing that way with new girls who don't know better and he'll continue hurting girls. In fact I think you have a responsibility to tell a guy that he is dangerous or dances inappropriately. Make excuses for the nice guys, but let the jerks have it! What are y'all's feelings about this?